- - 'Don't. Don't.' 'Ramsey Show' Experts Urge Family Not To Use $800K Of Retirement To Bail Out Divorcing Daughter

Margaret JacksonDecember 29, 2025 at 11:31 PM

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'Don't. Don't.' 'Ramsey Show' Experts Urge Family Not To Use $800K Of Retirement To Bail Out Divorcing Daughter

A caller to "The Ramsey Show" ignited a debate over family dynamics, inheritance and the dangers of enabling adult children when he described how his parents were planning to drain $800,000 from their retirement nest egg to bail out his sister during a messy divorce.

Calling from Ann Arbor, Michigan, Mike explained how his sister, a dentist, appeared to be living the American Dream. With three children in private schools, luxury vehicles in the driveway and high-end vacations, the family's image was one of success.

But the discovery process of her divorce uncovered a hollowed-out financial reality: Despite their high income, the couple had less than $50,000 in savings, including retirement.

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When the marriage collapsed, the sister sought to buy out her husband's share of the family home and her dental practice — a move requiring $800,000. After Mike refused to sell his own investment properties to provide the funds, the parents stepped in to cover the full amount.

Co-hosts Rachel Cruze and John Delony said rescuing the sister is dangerous. While the parents viewed their daughter as a victim of her husband's financial mismanagement, their daughter was equally responsible for the lifestyle choices that led to the crisis, they said.

"She didn't cause this, and boom, here it is," Delony said. "But that doesn't give license to avoid reality moving forward. She can't afford the house she lives in."

The hosts said that by providing the $800,000, the parents aren't just giving a gift. They are subsidizing a refusal to face financial truth. Delony categorized the move as the father's "participation in this in your sister's pain" rather than solving it.

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Perhaps most concerning to Mike — the executor of his parents' will — are the strings attached to the money. The parents specified that if the sister were to reconcile with her ex-husband, the money would be due back immediately.

Cruze and Delony said the high level of financial entanglement is a recipe for a permanent family rift.

"When he gives her $800,000 and she shows up in a new car, his first instinct is going to be: Why didn't she pay me back," Delony said, adding that such a massive transfer of wealth to one sibling often leads to lifelong resentment among the others after the parents die.

Cruze and Delony said the kindest thing Mike's parents could do may be to let the sister's lifestyle unravel. By hitting rock bottom, she might finally learn the financial literacy needed to rebuild a sustainable life on her own terms.

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